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Hi! How has your Sunday been? As you wrap up to rest and to start a new week, I thought this conversation with Sena Yeboah will give you some quality food for thought. It was a goosebumps factory for me and at a point I recall asking her who her God was! This interview was
Happy World Mama’s Day! I wish to celebrate all Mamas: single, married, divorced, seperated, awaiting the fruit of the womb, etc. WE ALL ROCK! And speaking of Mamas, I was honoured to sit with one very special Mama for an episode of Mind Your Business. Faith doesn’t only mother her child, she’s a mother to
Happy Labour Day! As I reflect on the reason for commemorating today, I can’t help but feel especially grateful to God on so many levels. First, to be doing what I love (mostly on my own terms) at this point in my life – today marks exactly 6 years of my first day as a
Hello, I hope your week has started off well. Recently I got to sit down with Ofosua Daaku Ammah for a lovely conversation. Before our recent International Fabulous Women’s Conference, I had an idea of a picture I wanted on our merchandise. But I couldn’t create it myself (I have come to accept that drawing
Happy Easter to you! For us at The Fabulous Woman Network, we have a bonus reason to celebrate: we are 7 years old this week! To God be the glory. As we celebrate all the goodness God has blessed us with, I would like you to pause and listen to this Mind Your Business interview
Hey you, how’s your Palm Sunday going so far? Mine has been full of dancing at church, sleep, sleep, sleep at home 🙂 and now a bit of work. So earlier this week we shared a beautiful conversation with Rissi Carrey and I believe it will bless you. Rissi is a member of the clergy,
Dealing with low self-esteem
I was born in Sekondi to a nurse and a farmer. When I was about 5 years, we moved to Komenda, a small town in the Central Region of Ghana. Even though I was one of the best students in primary school, I always felt ‘little’ when we travelled to cities like Cape Coast, Accra and Takoradi.
I felt everyone there was more beautiful, more intelligent, spoke better English and was generally better than me. I had a similar experience in secondary school, always looking down on myself and feeling I was not good enough. Oh, how I wished I were an ‘Accra girl’ because I thought they were so cool! Yet, when my family finally moved to Accra, I still didn’t feel cool. On top of this, I didn’t even have a boyfriend! If only I could get a boyfriend, then I will be cool like the other girls… I thought.
In University, I met some really wonderful friends, some of whom were from ‘rich’ families and I thought being friends with them will make me feel cool. I didn’t. I had the opportunity to start travelling abroad, and I was certain that when I returned, I most definitely will feel cool and belong in a ‘cool girls click’. Well, I did have cool friends before and after travelling; still, I didn’t feel like I was cool and ‘there’ yet. Oh, by the way, in my third year, I finally had a real boyfriend (now my husband). Not only that, but he also lived abroad, and hence, I occasionally went to visit him, which should have made me feel cool, or? Well, guess what, I still didn’t!
Even as a career woman working in an international four-star hotel as a manager, I looked down on myself. Once my General Manager called me into his office and asked why I never came asking for a pay raise and promotion when other managers always came to him with such requests. My response was ‘I want to earn it, not ask for it’. That was a half-truth. The real reason was that I felt I was not good enough to deserve more. I convinced myself that ‘I was not there yet’. I used to look at my friends who were lawyers, doctors or pursuing something big and wished I could do that too. I also wanted to be ‘somebody’.
To make matters worse, I was just getting pregnant and fat! After having my two kids, I thought getting an MBA will make me finally feel cool and ‘important’, yet I felt no different after completion. Even with a handsome husband and two adorable kids who doted on me, I thought I had very little value. Interestingly, at various stages in my life, I would meet people who were so impressed by and thought highly of me, yet I never saw what they saw. Mostly when people even complimented me, I doubted them and thought they were just trying to be nice.
How I found my ‘cool.’
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