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Good day! Today’s topic gets me very excited because it’s on networking! Haha. If you are not new here, then you know I talk about it a lot. Why? Because it is a valuable skill to learn especially for those of us in business. I owe every single job and contract I’ve had through my
Holaaa! It’s yet another exciting episode and today, I’m interviewing The Fabulous Golda Addo. Her strength and character are just so admirable. Ladies and gentlemen, let’s dig in! Ama Duncan (AD): Hi Golda. I appreciate you for making time for this conversation. Golda Addo (GA): It’s a pleasure. AD: I really have to commend your
Hello ya’ll and welcome once again. If you know me, you’ll know that I loooove networking. Why? Every single job and business contract I’ve ever had since I started working has been through my network. I even found my boo through my network *blushing*! Networking is a game changer; the people we surround ourselves with
Happy new month! Have you heard of Feng Shui therapy before? Well, today Selorm Dreamaker educates us about that, interior designing and more in this conversation. Enjoy! Ama Duncan (AD): Hello Selorm! I’m very excited to finally get this interview. Thank you for making time. Selorm Djaba-Mensah (SDM): Thank you so much too. (AD): Please
Here’s what I have noticed; many of these women have brilliant ideas to do projects to help other people e.g. abused women, underrepresented children, etc. They are passionate about helping others and I think that is beautiful. However, I have noticed most of these women don’t have the means for these dreams to come to pass.
Dealing with low self-esteem
I was born in Sekondi to a nurse and a farmer. When I was about 5 years, we moved to Komenda, a small town in the Central Region of Ghana. Even though I was one of the best students in primary school, I always felt ‘little’ when we travelled to cities like Cape Coast, Accra and Takoradi.
I felt everyone there was more beautiful, more intelligent, spoke better English and was generally better than me. I had a similar experience in secondary school, always looking down on myself and feeling I was not good enough. Oh, how I wished I were an ‘Accra girl’ because I thought they were so cool! Yet, when my family finally moved to Accra, I still didn’t feel cool. On top of this, I didn’t even have a boyfriend! If only I could get a boyfriend, then I will be cool like the other girls… I thought.
In University, I met some really wonderful friends, some of whom were from ‘rich’ families and I thought being friends with them will make me feel cool. I didn’t. I had the opportunity to start travelling abroad, and I was certain that when I returned, I most definitely will feel cool and belong in a ‘cool girls click’. Well, I did have cool friends before and after travelling; still, I didn’t feel like I was cool and ‘there’ yet. Oh, by the way, in my third year, I finally had a real boyfriend (now my husband). Not only that, but he also lived abroad, and hence, I occasionally went to visit him, which should have made me feel cool, or? Well, guess what, I still didn’t!
Even as a career woman working in an international four-star hotel as a manager, I looked down on myself. Once my General Manager called me into his office and asked why I never came asking for a pay raise and promotion when other managers always came to him with such requests. My response was ‘I want to earn it, not ask for it’. That was a half-truth. The real reason was that I felt I was not good enough to deserve more. I convinced myself that ‘I was not there yet’. I used to look at my friends who were lawyers, doctors or pursuing something big and wished I could do that too. I also wanted to be ‘somebody’.
To make matters worse, I was just getting pregnant and fat! After having my two kids, I thought getting an MBA will make me finally feel cool and ‘important’, yet I felt no different after completion. Even with a handsome husband and two adorable kids who doted on me, I thought I had very little value. Interestingly, at various stages in my life, I would meet people who were so impressed by and thought highly of me, yet I never saw what they saw. Mostly when people even complimented me, I doubted them and thought they were just trying to be nice.
How I found my ‘cool.’
Read the rest of my story in Yarns of inspiration II